Monday, January 3, 2011

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Life is about choices, and one of the more important is how we view other people. We can choose to focus on an individual's good points or keep our eyes on those things that annoy us. We can choose to acknowledge and praise an individual's gifts, talents, contributions, and good work, or we can choose to be blind to the positive characteristics and see only their faults.

How you choose to see others, to be a very great extent, becomes your opinion of your own self-worth.

Whatever is true,
Whatever is noble,
Whatever is right,
Whatever is pure,
Whatever is lovely,
Whatever is admirable.
If anything is excellent or praiseworthy,
Think about such things.

-Philippians-

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

- Family Birth Order -

First born

Positive traits:

Natural leaders; are competent; display responsible behavior; comfortable socializing with adults from an early age; high achievers; frequently live with a sense of entitlement and even superiority; strive to protect and help others; tendency towards conformity.

Negative traits:

Demonstrate perfectionist qualities by putting pressure on themselves to succeed; often moody; occasionally lack of sensitivity; intimidating, particularly in pushing people too hard or refusing to take no for an answer; known to be authoritarian of bossy.

Needs:

Authority approval.

Suggestion:

First born children have to know that it is okay for them to fail sometimes. They need to be aware that it is okay that they are not the best all of the time so long as they have tried their very best and that their significant authority figures (parents/teachers) would still love them regardless.

Second child / Middle child

Positive traits:

Independent and competitive with the oldest sibling, especially in small families; tendency to develop their own persona away from their family to develop abilities not found in the elder siblings; may tend to be a people-pleaser and usually hate confrontations; very calm, down-to-earth; can adapt to changes and acquire very good social skills; great listeners; good mediators and negotiators.

Negative traits:

May feel uncertain of self and own abilities if the elder child is successful, feel “squeezed” when a younger child is born; seldom getting parents’ undivided attention, may lean towards rebellions; difficulty in setting boundaries; not good at making decisions that would offend others; tend to blame themselves when others fail.

Needs:

Sense of belonging.

Suggestion:

Try to include second born children in all activities. They are likely to be motivated by a cause and enjoy working with people because that would give them a sense of belonging.

Youngest Child

Positive traits:

Creative, unconventional; charming and adaptable; strong people skills; love to entertain and talk to others; make friends easily; an extrovert; energized by the presence of other people; display the highest developed levels of emotional intelligence; not afraid to take risks; may behave like only child.

Negative traits:

Cannot accept to be “dethroned”, used to always getting their way, tend to get bored quickly; strong fear of rejections; short attention span; self-centered; tend to have unrealistic expectations, except others to do things, make decisions, and take responsibility; feeling disadvantaged in being the smallest and weakest, develop feelings of inferiority or become “speeder” to catch up with older siblings.

Needs:

Need attention for their efforts.

Suggestion:

Last born children may have babyish qualities, such as excessive tattling, crying, or whining. It is important that you must not get annoyed with these habits but give them some extra tasks to make them feel helpful and allow them to become more mature. They will often do anything to be noticed, so ensure you appreciate their efforts.

Only Child

Positive traits:

Always the centre of attention, they often enjoy this position as it makes them feel them special; can be very matured intellectually; task-orientated; extremely well-organized; highly conscientious; dependable; feels extremely comfortable with responsibility.

Negative traits:

Feel unfairly treated when not getting their own way; may refuse to cooperate;can be self-centered; tough to handle; may play “divide and conquer” to get own way; missing out on the social skills learned through sibling interaction, may find it difficult to share or compromise; can be very demanding; hate to admit they are wrong; do not accept criticisms well.

Needs:

Recognition

Suggestion:

It is necessary for the only child to be aware that you know how hard he/she is trying and how hard he/she is doing. This reassures the child that he/she is living up to your standards and boosts his/her overall confidence.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

- Family Comes Together -

Family comes together
For always and forever
In sickness and in health
In poverty or in wealth

Family comes together
For always and forever
Without any reason
Anytime or any reason

Family comes together
For always and forever
In death or in life
In happiness or in strife

Family comes together
For always and forever
In anger or in kindness
Whether all-seeing or in blindness

Family comes together
For always and forever
Whether for work or for play
They somehow find a way

For family to come together
Because families are forever


- Glaedr -